It started out, as all progressive plans do, with good intentions and limited application:
But it quickly galloped off into the hills and is still “evolving.” Like the Covid, it will never end. Here’s one of the more current lists of “non-binary” pronouns. It is used as a handout in college classes to instruct “binary” gendered students to use the correct pronoun in order to avoid offending the more sensitive non-binaries.
The result? This one as found at the Washington Post and it ain’t parody:
That’s when I decided to raise my cats to be gender neutral.
The cats’ lives wouldn’t change, I reasoned, and it would help me learn to use plural pronouns for my friends, neighbors and colleagues who individually go by they, their and them. [ed. obviously first-wave non-binaries]
Even though using they, them and their as singular pronouns grates on many people because it’s grammatically incorrect, it seems to be the most popular solution to the question of how to identify people without requiring them to conform to the gender binary of female and male. It also just feels right to refer to people as they wish to be referred to.