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Thanksgiving Do’s and Don’ts

FILMS (in order of appearance)
Nobody’s Fool (Robert Benton, 1994)
The House of Yes (Mark Waters, 1997)
Miracle on 34th Street (George Seaton, 1947)
Hannah and Her Sisters (Woody Allen, 1986)
Home for the Holidays (Jodie Foster, 1995)
She’s Gotta Have It (Spike Lee, 1986)
ThanksKilling (Jordan Downey, 2009)
Alice’s Restaurant (Arthur Penn, 1969)
Dutch (Peter Faiman, 1991)
Addams Family Values (Barry Sonnenfeld, 1993)
The Ice Storm (Ang Lee, 1997)
Brokeback Mountain (Ang Lee, 2005)
Scent of a Woman (Martin Brest, 1992)
Funny People (Judd Apatow, 2009)
Son-In-Law (Steve Rash)
Planes, Trains, and Automobiles (John Hughes, 1987)

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  • BillH November 20, 2017, 1:05 PM

    I was going to play it until I saw the list of sources.

  • Eskyman November 20, 2017, 2:56 PM

    I’m obviously out of touch.

    Most of those I didn’t recognize, and have no idea what the context is; the only ones I did know were Miracle on 34th Street, Addams Family Values, and Planes, Trains and Automobiles, all of which I enjoyed very much. Oh, and Alice’s Restaurant, though I liked the song a lot more than the film.

    There are a few that looked intriguing, and a few that I’d avoid at all costs. That last one, Hipster Thanksgiving, reminds me so much of my daughter (who probably wouldn’t find it at all funny, but I did!)

    One Thanksgiving film that I saw years ago in Australia I can recommend: “What’s Cooking” (2000) is set in Los Angeles, with four different families each coping with Thanksgiving in their own way. They’re all connected in a hidden way; and they each have something to hide. I enjoyed it very much, and I’m surprised that no one in this country ever seems to have heard of it; but then, maybe I liked it because it brought me back home, in a way, from as far away as I could be while still on the planet.

  • ghostsniper November 20, 2017, 6:43 PM

    Around these parts we have a different idea on what not to do on Thanksgiving.
    Thanksgiving itself, lemme splain.
    For the past 33 years, as long as we’ve been married, we have went to my inlaws house for all major holidays.
    In 2002 our only child, our son decided to stop going.
    In 2008 the FIL died.
    Last year my 84 year old MIL was so frail I decided that from that point forth we will do Thanksgiving at our house and we will go get the MIL and bring her over (she lives an hour away each way), she can stay the night, then on Fri we’ll take her home.

    That was the plan and 2 weeks ago I got the giant 18lb Butterball, all the fixin’s, my wife was going to make her legendary 1/2″ thick punkin pies (yes, 1/2″ thick, but oh so good) and of course the curious upside down can of Cranberry saw, etc.

    Well, last week my now 85 yo MIL’s health turned for the worse, much, much worse, and none of us expect her to live more than another week. At 65 lbs she is skin and bones and as my wife said she looks like a concentration camp victim. I have not seen her with my own eyeballs except a few pix. We will not be having Thanksgiving at her house or our house this year. We won’t be having Thanksgiving at all.

    My wife and her 2 brothers have been taking turns of 2-3 days each of staying at the MIL’s house to look over her and assist her in her fast decline. Seems there are no facilities out there that do this stuff except for those that require fort knox’s of gold bullion up front. My wifes “shift” is this coming Thur and Fri so I will be going with her. It may be the last time I see my MIL.

    Glad I didn’t yank the bird out of the freezer yet and we’ll do it up somewhere down the line. Not to seem mean to my MIL cause I’ve always gotten along with her but, this stuff is sooooo disruptive. My wife came home this morning after spending the last 3 days there, her first shift at all of this, and as soon as she came in she hadn’t even taken her coat off yet she just dropped her bag on the floor then collapsed in tears right there next to it. After a few minutes of composure seeking she told me the physical strain of dealing with her mostly invalid mother is bad enough but the emotional drain is more than she can bear. I have had extensive medical experience in another lifetime (EMT) and might be better able to deal with this as I’m sort of a half step removed from the situation, and I told my wife I will accompany her on her next shift which just happens to be TDay. sigh getting old is a real bitch at times. Don’t get gravy on your shirt, the fat content will stain permanently. ask me how I know…..

    I don’t want your sympathy but I do want your empathy, and even more, on Thanksgiving Day I want you to take a moment and remember what my wife and I are doing on that day and to extend that thought into the people your are spending that holiday with. Your age is unimportant but the age of your other family members are and you too may face similar difficulty next TDay. Use that day, Thanksgiving Day, to truly reflect on what you have and what you are thankful for. My now gone favoritist uncle in the world once said, “Man is the only animal in the world that spends the first half of it’s life acquiring things and the second half of it’s life getting rid of them.” Slowly, but surely, we all go away. Peace, out.

  • Jaynie November 21, 2017, 5:01 AM

    To ghostsniper, will give you, and your wife and her family, and your poor mil, a thought and a prayer. Very moving essay. Thanksgiving this year the first year without my dear old Dad. He passed away in his sleep at 92 years of age last summer. Five years earlier, my Mom gritted her teeth and soldiered through her last Thanksgiving on this earth while she was quite sick. She passed away within the month after a bunch of pain. Our parents can give our hearts so much joy, and then the heartbreak. Terribly hard to see them suffer. And too lose the. I wish you and your wife plenty of blessings this year as you care for your mil.

  • Sam L. November 21, 2017, 8:41 AM

    Go out for Chinese.

  • Howard Nelson November 21, 2017, 7:33 PM

    Thanks to gs and Jaynie, mood masters both, of the best kind.
    To all, from John Denver and Placido Domingo, “Perhaps Love”

  • Howard Nelson November 21, 2017, 7:37 PM

    Ooops! Change https; to https: in the link above.
    Perhaps I need another colonoscopy. I’ll look in to it.

  • ghostsniper November 21, 2017, 7:47 PM

    Thank you Jaynie.
    Seems the only time I hear from my side of the family is when there’s bad news.
    Just received a text a little while ago from my youngest sister in NC that my oldest sister also in NC was taken to the emergency room earlier this evening with a blood clot in her neck.
    A holiday season to remember.

  • Sid V November 28, 2019, 11:19 AM

    Typical liberal Hollywood crap shitting on Thanksgiving, the most American of holidays. Fuck each and everyone of them.

  • John the River November 28, 2019, 4:50 PM

    Ditto… odd and repulsive collection of movies. I pass.

    Ghost, I can feel for what you are going through. Thanksgivings since my wife passed have been bleak. My mothers last birthday “party” at 90 was an unmitigated disaster, dementia kicked in full blast three hours before kickoff.

    Just got home from Thanksgiving dinner at my girlfriends family’s house. It was cool, nobody talked politics and there were doggies and little kids; the dogs were old and friendly, the kids were very young, cute and (oh my God!) loud. A good day. God bless everyone here.

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