« "The inevitable culmination of the Occupy movement has finally arrived:" | Main | Jobs! Jobs! Jobs? »

December 3, 2011

“I mean, a guy buys me three drinks at $15 a pop and that right there made up for my Match fee.”


File Under: Men are Morons:
A New York woman has confessed to signing up for the online dating service Match.com because she was going into debt and wanted free food the dates would provide her. Going on five dates a week she “made” up to $1200 a month.... Her plan involved eating out five nights a week using a rotation of different men from Match and made it a rule not to go out on more than five dates with the same man. She quickly had men buying her not just food but alcohol, even a $200 bottle of champagne on one date. -- The Mary Sue

Posted by gerardvanderleun at December 3, 2011 9:06 AM. This is an entry on the sideblog of American Digest: Check it out.

Your Say

I already have a file marked "Inequalities the feminists are in no hurry to fix" so I think I'll put it there.

Posted by: Morgan K Freeberg at December 3, 2011 9:53 AM

Dating has always been a sucker's game, but this woman is the first I've read bout to figure it out as well as she did. I've long wondered how many women aren't doing exactly this. Its not much different than acting, and maybe you'll meet some guy you can give it up for at the end of the date like the whore you've become.

Posted by: Christopher Taylor at December 3, 2011 10:04 AM

I've been single for the past thirteen years. I am no stranger to this sort of woman. In fact, it's the first thing I look for. That's why the first date is never a dinner date, and why I shy away from any woman who suggests an environment that would naturally lead to one. No, I'm not meeting you at PF Changs.

Posted by: Casca at December 3, 2011 10:13 AM

Hummm...23 and probably very attractive. Not looking for a husband but not adverse to a dinner out some nice chit chat maybe a drink or four and the promise of something more next week. What's not to like? The real problem is she's setting her sights too low, dinner? How 'bout an apartment and trips abroad? To paraphrase Sir Winston, "we've determined what she is now we're just haggling over the price". Thank heaven for young beautiful women with low self esteem.

Posted by: I-RIGHT-I at December 3, 2011 11:19 AM

At many times in the world, there are plenty of personable, charming, interesting people who live off their invitations to parties or to stay over for a while. Plenty of college students travel the world that way, just staying with friends, making themselves pleasant guests, and possibly doing a few light chores just to make it more pleasant.

Nobody calls these people whores, possibly because they're usually men. They don't ask for this stuff, so they're not mooches. They endeavor not to fall to the status of hangers-on or toadies or staff.

Similarly, this woman doesn't appear to have made herself available for anything but a date. There's nothing immoral about dating more than one man, as long as she's not sleeping with them or making promises. Presumably she was quite pleasant to be with, because men did give her all this stuff.

The worst you can say is that she accepted valuable gifts and pricey dinners, which very few men perceive as being free gifts and not investment fodder or payment. But it may well be that she simply carried off all with a high hand. An impecunious dame living off her social engagements can still be a pleasant and classy person to be with.

But her real social sin is that she talked about her dates afterward, in public. A lady would never tell, much less brag about her particular methods of living. It shows that she was not a very highminded soul, however much she can wear the social mask; and I fear that perhaps not all the gentlemen involved had a pleasant evening to which they can look back with no regrets.

Posted by: Maureen at December 3, 2011 11:55 AM

What was the name of that surfer guy who was living in OJ Simpson's bungalow? Sheesh, if a woman had been living there and living off the Simpsons, everybody would have known exactly what to think about such a moneygrubbing live-in slut and any supposed odd jobs she was supposedly doing. But if a good-looking guy is there, he's just a nice kid partying in Hollywood, hanging out with the stars, helping out with chores and housesitting.

Yeppers, no double standards there.

Posted by: Maureen at December 3, 2011 12:00 PM

Kato Kaelin is the guy. He was ruthlessly mocked as a dumb blonde bum. He was a dumb blonde bum but that's not the same as being a kept woman, gold bricker and low born gutterslut so the double standard thing doesn’t apply to Kato. In fact I'd say that society looks down on male sponges but elevates the female parasite. Tune into TMZ and tell me I'm wrong.

Posted by: I-RIGHT-I at December 3, 2011 12:31 PM

Clever girl.

Posted by: RedCarolina at December 3, 2011 4:37 PM

I don't believe her. I was involved in the online dating industry when it began, and from that vantage point do not believe that any girl is getting a third date if she would not put out on date #2. Very few get to date #2 without at least some action, even if only some manual stimulation. If her story is true, she is a whore. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt, and call her a liar.

Posted by: Michael Gersh at December 3, 2011 5:01 PM

Everyone I knew thought Kato Kalin was a loser leech living off OJ. I'm with I-RIGHT-I.

Posted by: Christopher Taylor at December 3, 2011 7:13 PM

I feel sorry for her. Further down the road I don't expect any successful relationships in her future, she looks at men like a vampire looks at necks.

Posted by: John the River at December 3, 2011 8:13 PM

The only difference between what she's doing and getting a 'roofie' from her local clientele is it is somewhat safer.

Posted by: Peccable at December 4, 2011 4:05 AM

This reminds me of a woman I knew about 20 years ago. I met her when she was unemployed, and we were practically inseparable for 2-3 months. Then, once she got a job (and I helped her write her résume), she suddenly didn't have time for me any more.

By the time I figured out what was going on, it was over.

I recommend cats.

Posted by: rickl at December 4, 2011 7:09 AM

Post a comment

Remember Me?

(you may use HTML tags for style)