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July 25, 2016
What do tats and piercings on a woman really mean?
Most of them are functional. The majority would fall under the umbrella of bi-polar. But bi-polar is different for different individuals, sometimes very different. Serious symptoms usually become apparent at puberty but often are masked and difficult to identify.
Typical situation is while everything is going well the individual is fine but when things aren't going well... watch out. Usually this is discovered after you marry them and usually it isn't pretty. One major confounding factor with bi-polar is the mentally ill person thinks that they are normal and YOU are crazy. Everything that happens including everything they do is YOUR fault.
If you suddenly discover that your spouse is crazy there is only one safe choice to make: Apologize for whatever you did (or they think you did), promise to buy them something expensive and awesome, kiss ass and play nice... and rent a storage unit, move your shit out when they are gone one day and leave. If you fail to take this advise you will most likely one day be sitting in the back of a police cruiser in cuffs charged with domestic violence and mot likely you will not even have committed any violence.
They will harm themselves, tear their clothes, hit you and deny it, etc. When you get to court your spouse will appear sympathetic, be crying, will have bruises. or pictures of bruises, a good story and will cry on the stand. If you dare look up during this entire case expect the judge, jury, prosecutor and even your own attorney to be looking at you like you are shit.
You will go to jail. She will sell or throw away all your stuff. You will lose your license to drive, your job, your dignity and good name, and you will get to pay alimony, child support, fees for classes and shrinks, etc. Good luck. I told you how to avoid it but you didn't listen.
There is the chance of schadenfreude however. She will remarry (or more likely shack up so you have to keep paying alimony). And the guy who sleeps in your bed and plumbs your ex's depths will be all shitty to you when you try to see your kids. But his day will come. Sit back, wait, the shit storm will strike again.... Posted by: GoneWithTheWind
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I married her.
Never got to the really nasty court stuff, but it was definitely headed that way. After the divorce was final and I had a paper signed by the judge that said whatever I had in my possession was mine, I put 80 boxes of what had been her stuff in the trash, after letting friends and neighbors pick through it for anything they wanted.
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at July 25, 2016 6:45 AM
"... and rent a storage unit, move your shit out when they are gone one day and leave. If you fail to take this advise you will most likely one day be sitting in the back of a police cruiser in cuffs charged with domestic violence and mot likely you will not even have committed any violence."
Been. There. Done. That.
Just get out!
tim
Posted by: Lands’nGrooves at July 25, 2016 7:15 AM
No piercings, no tats---mine got in under the radar. She went into the MHMR in Austin back around December 1988, came out a few months later with "flavor of the month" maintenance meds. And a violent streak.
After one attack, I found myself up against a pillar being prepped for the bracelets. I said to the APD officer, "Why don't you ask her about the Thorazine they've got her on?"
"They don't have me on Thorazine anymore!", was her sneering reply.
And that was enough.
The cop let go and started listening to me at that point. The arrest never happened.
Posted by: hammond aikes at July 25, 2016 1:19 PM
Keep all finances separate. Don't marry and always keep a boogie bag for that moment when she tips over. Set her off and you be the one to call the cops.
Remember, anything that is all emotion and no logic cannot be trusted to utter a sane word.
Posted by: Vermont Woodchuck at July 26, 2016 6:28 AM
Yeah guys, I'll grant you all of that. It happens. What also happens is 47 years of drunk etc etc etc.
Too much of nothing.
Posted by: pbird at July 26, 2016 12:12 PM
What does ANY of this have to do with tattoos and piercings? What did I miss?
Posted by: DonRodrigo at July 28, 2016 2:18 PM