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January 6, 2015
“Microaggressions”, “Trigger Warnings”, and the New Meaning of “Trauma”
Yes, fuck your trauma. My sympathy for your suffering, whether that suffering was real or imaginary, ended when you demanded I change my life to avoid bringing up your bad memories.
You don’t seem to have figured this out, but there is no “I must never be reminded of a negative experience” expectation in any culture anywhere on earth. If your psyche is so fragile you fall apart when someone inadvertently reminds you of “trauma”, especially if that trauma consisted of you overreacting to a self-interpreted racial slur, you need therapy. You belong on a psychiatrist’s couch, not in college dictating what the rest of society can’t do, say or think. Get your own head right before you start trying to run other people’s lives. If you expect everyone around you to cater to your neurosis, forever, you’re what I’d call a “failure at life”. And you’re doomed to perpetual disappointment.| chris hernandez
Posted by gerardvanderleun at January 6, 2015 9:56 AM. This is an entry on the sideblog of American Digest: Check it out.
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It just occurred to me that this is all dealt with in 12-step Alcoholics Anonymous type programs. One of the main themes of dealing with addictions and living with someone in that condition is learning a basic truth of life: you're responsible for your reactions and responses, not anyone else.
Yes, people should be polite, but your offense, hurt, and anger is yours, not anyone else's. And this basic truth is the core of recovering from a pattern of dysfunction and borderline insanity. Its how someone who has been codependent living with an alcoholic begins to regain their sanity and live a normal life.
And these asshats all want the entire world to be codependent on them. To change so they don't have to, to avoid doing things that force them to grow up and deal with life. Its all been dealt with decades ago by groups like AA, but now these weaklings want the entire world to change.
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at January 6, 2015 11:42 AM
Also dealt with using the patented "chasmatician* technique:
A good hard punch in the face. Repeat as needed for stubborn stains.
* chas•ma•ti•cian (chăs-mə-tĭsh′ən) n.
A person skilled or learned in punching people in the face who rate it. h/t Mike James
A new class will be starting shortly. Pre-register and avoid last minute crowds.
Posted by: chasmatic at January 6, 2015 12:42 PM
"Your fears are NOT my chains."
--gs, 2099
Chas should create some "Ranger" tabs that "Certified Punchers" can install on their day to day uniforms, on the upper left shoulder: GHPITF
(Good Hard Punch In The Face)
Posted by: ghostsniper at January 6, 2015 2:49 PM
all this crap about alcoholism being a disease caused more trouble for getting drunks to quit; it gives them an excuse for their drinking.
Why don't we give alkies beer to taper off booze like we give smokers nic patches to quit smoking. It's all horse pucky. If you want to quit, you'll quit. Otherwise you're lying to yourself. Why bother.
I remember trying to quit smoking a couple of times. Didn't work because I really didn't want to stop. In 1985, I cold turkey quit four packs a day of Marlboros. Haven't smoked since. I wanted to stop and wasn't BSing myself or anyone else.
The 12 step to stop drinking is #1 STOP! #2 stay off booze. #3 through #11 don't start again. #12 don't lie to yourself and others.
If you can't, drink and keep your genes out of the pool.
Posted by: Vermont Woodchuck at January 6, 2015 4:11 PM
"I am tired of fooling around," he said. "As for the rights of anyone, tell your people they can go fuck themselves." The Colonel by Carolyn Forche
Can't say it any better than that. As for the bantam chickens, those little sumbitches are the living descendants of velociraptors. I wouldn't be messing with 'em.
Posted by: chasmatic at January 7, 2015 6:27 AM
Vermont - You nailed it. No amount of counseling, commiserating, cajoling or coddling will help if you're not dead set on quitting. It has to come from within. Been there.
Posted by: BillH at January 7, 2015 8:01 AM
Any emotional or spiritual well-being is an Inside Job.
Posted by: chasmatic at January 7, 2015 11:31 PM