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Oh my how true, and I regard myself as the luckiest man alive for my 20's-something experiences with two (much) older women. I won't describe those affairs, and that is an appropriate name for them, since I would be accused of either bragging or lying or probably both. Suffice it to say I have never been as spiritually or physically satisfied with women of my own age in all the many years since. I miss them terribly.

Oh hell yes.

I just made that identical point over at Curmudgeonly and Skeptical re that Jason Headley vid about the chick with the nail in her head.

The issue, so drilled into our heads ever since that little snot John Gray started up that Mars and Venus horsecrap 20 years ago, isn't about men vs women. The issue is that there may me no man under 50 who's ever met a woman.

The last two I lost my heart to are now in their early 50s, and in their late 20s/early 30s when I got together with them. It was never my choice to chase around after young chicks, believe me. Like most other men, I was totally vulnerable to somebody who came after me like I was special, and the fact that they were 30 years old eradicated my common sense once they took their clothes off. The love of my life, the only time I fell in love at first sight, is somebody I met when I was 35, and she turned out to be 19. And I took a pass, on accounta it was real apparent that, all else aside, she needed to be 19 and I couldn't help her with that. After she kept coming around for 10 years, we moved in together and I was treated to the most jaw-dropping experience of selfishness and entitlement and narcissism I've ever dreamed of in a life full of nightmares. And when I managed to survive my first experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, here came another one, one year older.

What that works out to is that they were around 10 years old when "feminism" infected the very air they breathed. Imagine being a 10-year-old girl in 1970; every message from your teachers, from movies, from television, from magazines screamed at you that you were no longer responsible, and that men caused earthquakes and acne and difficult puberty in general.

You were off the hook in every way, and simultaneously were never, ever under any circumstances, to be allowed to be happy. You were born to be a Princess, and Prince Charming was born to be a toad. That asshole.

At my age, the only women I find appealing are either 40 years married and grown up, or in their 80s and wised up. Women my age, frankly, have long since exhausted my sympathy. And as I've been uncomfortably aware for a long, long time, you can't legislate erections. It's true, I think, that chicks now in their 20s and 30s sometimes have enough sense to recognize that "feminism" fucked up their older sisters, and are maybe more together as a result. But like the man says, they've grown up in a world where it is stipulated that Wimmin Iz Victims, and their insanity surfaces at the most surreal moments.

But what difference does that make to a grown man? They're children, and if they do want to get together with somebody breathing hard on 70 there are things wrong that are not worth solving. A buddy has opined that guys our age probably had the best of it for being young and single, coming around between the advent of The Pill and Age of AIDS. There was more free pussy around than you could shake a stick at, and after my first wife (an early advocate of Pussy Power) absconded with my daughter, my stick was shaking constantly.

What it's cost, though, is that our approaching old age is bereft of the love we dreamed of as young boys, and the objects of that desire seem to be a poor joke.

God Damn It.

There is hope. I have two daughters, and I taught them to curb their impulses, just like men have been taught to curb theirs. Just because a woman "feels" a certain way, it by no means gives her authority, or an excuse. Since my children don't go to school, this is the only way they are taught to think. It can be done. And, it is a pleasant way to live. (Get your kids out of government schools)

I've often thought about starting a business to train gals to be ladies; it is truly a lost art. Girls(my nieces) are not taught to be ladies , they have no idea what they are missing, they have been taught to be rough,loud,vulgar and extremely over-confident and self-centered. It's sad, there are going to be alot more miserable & lonely 40+ year old females in the future.

Lets be fair though, there aren't very many men left, either.