February 11, 2012

"Facebook Parenting:" 3 4 Days, 15 19 Million Views, 100,000 Comments

Well, this seems to have touched a nerve.

"That right there is your laptop. You see it right there on the ground. This right here... is my 45.

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"That was the first round. These are exploding hollow point rounds, and you have to pay me back for these too, because these are a dollar apiece.

"1,2,3,4,5,6... Oh yeah, after that comment you made about your mom your mom told me to put one there for her. So that one's from her and if i got one left.... Oh I got two left... Now I'm out....


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"So, just for the record, whenever you're not grounded --whatever year that happens to be -- you can have a new laptop when you buy a new laptop.... and when you pay me back the $128 I spent on your laptop yesterday."
Now playing at:Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen. - YouTube

UPDATE: Attention Media Outlets "If we have anything to say, we'll say it here on Facebook, and we'll say it publicly, but we won't say it to a microphone or a camera. There are too many other REAL issues out there that could use this attention you're giving us. My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise damaged, but that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family." [HT: Joan]

Posted by gerardvanderleun at February 11, 2012 9:40 AM
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Some say he made a mistake (or mistakes) here.

I say he started making mistakes before he bought her the laptop,

Posted by: Larry Sheldon at February 11, 2012 3:39 PM

I would agree, as a parent myself, the ol' boy probably made his share of mistakes in the raising of this child. Judging on how he reacted to what he found on her facebook page, I am going to assume most of his mistakes erred on the side of love/ compassion.

The ungrateful little snit most likely mistook being daddies little girl, for a free pass in having little manners and no class. Looks like daddy has taken great pains to help correct her attitude.

I wish him the best of luck, but at this late stage (assuming this has been going on for some time) it is going to take more than a little work and effort on her parents part in bringing her around to reality.

Posted by: Guy S at February 11, 2012 5:13 PM

Boys, you have NO idea. I have four beautiful, headstrong daughters. The first two - twins - are Trial and Error. The Irksome Middle, followed by the Very Good Girl Who Has No Mean Bones (but a sarcastic dry wit). Irksome sent us over the edge. You think the man made mistakes? Duh. He loves the girl. Children are not malleable little droolballs of happy dough. They plot, they conspire, they choose to be little conformists with their loser friends because it's easier for them to shout "Treat me like an individual!" in unison. They are selfish, snotty and the most stern parent will be both blessed and vexed by the snarling little dears. Our Irksome grew up, had her own plotter, and now shudders when she sees elements of herself in him. HA!
Fame is a fickle mistress. This too shall pass. Viral things do. Give it a week and some newer, shinier outrage will come along to displace his momentary fame.
I note that the comments on some sites are either pro-Dad or pro-Daughter.
Me....I've been in the man's shoes. What works for one Irksome Child may not work for another.
We spied on our child. Wreaked subtle havoc in her life. Turned her drug-addled friends on one another til she realized they weren't very good friends to begin with. I never shot the girl's computer, but I did have her arrested the day after Christmas. She spent a very contrite New Year's Day and all of January in kiddie jail. I slept well that month, let me tell you. Parenting requires many things, creativity being the third most necessary ingredient, after love and patience.

Posted by: Jewel at February 11, 2012 5:39 PM

I must say that I was pleasantly surprised by all the YouTube response videos that were put together by young folk and were supportive of the Dad. Very interesting. A positive omen, I hope.

Posted by: Grizzly at February 11, 2012 8:12 PM

JEWEL WINS INTERNETS

Posted by: B Lewis at February 11, 2012 8:50 PM

Hah! Good for him.

I get a call a year ago that daughter is in jail from the step-dad. Good guy. The mother, daughter, grandson and granddaughter (2 weeks old) are living with him but he has had enough. So has the Mom. They have to work and cannot care for the kids. The baby-daddy parents are not volunteering to help. Both of the babies (did I mention they are at that time 11 months and 2 weeks old?) need to be looked after.

Baby-daddy had picked up daughter for a 'date' after the birth of the little girl so Mommy could have a short night out. In a stolen car. They get stopped. He gets popped. Daughter has a warrant for debts and failure to appear to court out on her. She gets popped. We fly to their town in the next state. The responsible 'rents = mother, step-dad, step-mom & I - decide the kids come one state over.

So, a few days go by and daughter is out. Baby-daddy is not. She insists she will come to one state over and get a fresh start. Okay, we get the ball rolling. Baby-daddy gets out. Daughter rushes back to his embrace. Spills the plans. Baby-daddy and she call the cops on me. I get a visit from the local yokels doing a 'well child check'. I get a call from their home town DA. He says bring the kids back that daughter has turned me in along with baby-daddy for custodial interference. Or I go to jail.

I used to have a daughter.

I used to have grand-kids.

Sometimes there is nothing to be done and they turn out to be a waste of time and suck resources. Did I mention they now live off of the state? Neither of the grand-kids parents work but live off of his parents.

Waste of space.

Posted by: Robohobo at February 11, 2012 10:01 PM

What a waste and a shame. That is appalling.

Posted by: Jewel at February 11, 2012 10:09 PM

The aftermath is totally worth your time. Mr. Jordan should be Father of the Year.

Posted by: Joan of Argghh at February 12, 2012 4:36 AM

So he sent her a youtube message of himself blowing up the computer she uses to watch youtube?

I am thinking Dad might have a few issues of his own.

Posted by: B. Moe at February 12, 2012 4:41 AM

B. Moe:

Perhaps one of her little friends has a computer from which she can access facebook. Or just perhaps she'll be the laughingstock of her school.

Dave

Posted by: Dave at February 12, 2012 5:32 AM

You really should read the Dad's follow-up:

"Attention Media Outlets

While we appreciate the interest you're all putting forth to get in touch with us regarding the video, we're not going to go on your talk show, not going to call in to your radio show, and not going to be in your TV mini-series.

Some of you think I made an acceptable parenting decision and others think I didn't. However, I can't think of any way myself or my daughter can ...respond to a media outlet that won't be twisted out of context. The Dallas news TV news already showed that in their brief 5 minute interview with the psychologist.

Additionally, there's absolutely NO way I'm going to send my child the message that it's OK to gain from something like this. It would send her a message that it's OK to profit at the expense of someone else's embarrassment or misfortune and that's now how I was raised, nor how she has been raised.

So I say thank you from all of us. If we have anything to say, we'll say it here on Facebook, and we'll say it publicly, but we won't say it to a microphone or a camera. There are too many other REAL issues out there that could use this attention you're giving us. My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise damaged, but that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family."

He and his daughter have been reading all of the comments together; she laughs to see how people think she's so weak that this would make her suicidal. He supports her strength by challenging her challenges to his authority. He doesn't weaken her with pandering. Lucky girl. Lucky dad.

Posted by: Joan of Argghh! at February 12, 2012 8:54 AM

You really should read the Dad's follow-up:

"Attention Media Outlets

While we appreciate the interest you're all putting forth to get in touch with us regarding the video, we're not going to go on your talk show, not going to call in to your radio show, and not going to be in your TV mini-series.

Some of you think I made an acceptable parenting decision and others think I didn't. However, I can't think of any way myself or my daughter can ...respond to a media outlet that won't be twisted out of context. The Dallas news TV news already showed that in their brief 5 minute interview with the psychologist.

Additionally, there's absolutely NO way I'm going to send my child the message that it's OK to gain from something like this. It would send her a message that it's OK to profit at the expense of someone else's embarrassment or misfortune and that's now how I was raised, nor how she has been raised.

So I say thank you from all of us. If we have anything to say, we'll say it here on Facebook, and we'll say it publicly, but we won't say it to a microphone or a camera. There are too many other REAL issues out there that could use this attention you're giving us. My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise damaged, but that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a positive effect on any child or family."

He and his daughter have been reading all of the comments together; she laughs to see how people think she's so weak that this would make her suicidal. He supports her strength by challenging her challenges to his authority. He doesn't weaken her with pandering. Lucky girl. Lucky dad.

Posted by: Joan of Argghh at February 12, 2012 8:54 AM

Said the right thing; used the right piece! Dead issue!

Posted by: Tom at February 12, 2012 9:34 AM

The democratic diseases which we've caught are multiplied in social media, and our little plotters have a vehicle to sharpen their worst instincts before they have established their better ones.

Posted by: james wilson at February 12, 2012 10:20 AM

I agree with James. Personally I'd mandate no one under the age of 21 be allowed to use the Internet, frankly.

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