Sadly, I know several families whose youngest children are now in college or have graduated, and they expect them to come home to stay. In one family, they have four kids. 3 are successful in their professions. They are a lot older than the youngest son, who graduated a few years ago. He is expected and pressured by his siblings and parents to forego any career aspirations and move in with them to take care of them. He is almost suicidal.
Another of my daughter's friends is a college student now, and her parents are waging a hellish psychological war on her to live at home while she goes to school. She'd rather live on campus, rather than driving 60 miles every day to and from school. They go so far as to hide her keys.
They treat her like a little girl, rather than like the 20 year old she is.
Oh, the truth of this video burns. We are living in a perpetually infantile culture (as witnessed by the recent presidential election).
Many decades ago, my brother dropped out of university. He lived with our parents until he was 36. I suppose they were ahead of their time...or something. At any rate, I was determined nothing of the sort would happen to my husband and me.
I raised my own four kids to understand that once they graduated from high school, they were either going to college, trade school, or straight into jobs. I honestly did not favor one path over the other, as long as the understanding was that they were leaving home to pursue adult lives, and they were not to return except for visits. This was drilled into them from the time they began kindergarten as a normal expectation.
Thus far, the three eldest have established self-supporting lives as adults (the fourth is still in high school). Upon graduating from university last summer Youngest Daughter was unable to get a full time job in her field (elementary school teaching). Fortunately she landed a part-time teaching position that meets her living expenses, but she has student loans to repay. She will do so without coming back home to live; sharing the rent of a house with 9 (yes, nine) other young ladies is part of her plan.
I am very proud of her, and her siblings.
It's all in what you expect from them.